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Disobedience! He should do this - but doesn't

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When you think he should do this, or she should not do that, or anything should be different, this is a belief. Let's only talk about adults here since children who are a totally different discussion.

Any belief in a should says you think that the world is wrong to be the way it is, and if only it were the way you think it should be, the world would be a better place.

Yet even if she would do better if she did it your way, that doesn't mean she should do it. How do you know the goal she is trying to accomplish? Maybe what you believe she should do would counteract what she is trying to do. And does she really know her long-term aim anyway?

Perhaps he promised to be faithful and now he isn't. Yet people break their word all the time, which is not to condone breaking your word. He obviously sees good reasons for not following through on his commitment, even as you think his reasons are invalid. People often cheat on their relationship in some way, perhaps mentally if not physically. Have you ever done so and called it extenuating circumstances?

Have you ever found your actions sometimes don't give you the results you are trying to achieve. Yet ten years later, you find those experiences have benefitted you in the long run, even though they appeared undesirable at the time. Could their actions also give them a long-term benefit?

Can you be absolutely certain that you do know better? Do you have a crystal ball? Have you ever been mistaken - or are you infallible? Could this just be yet another uninvestigated belief with little power?

Food for Thought

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"Should you shield the canyons from the windstorms, you would never see the beauty of their carvings."

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross


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