How we got to our Breakthrough

Is Stress a Disease or a Symptom?

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With all the misinformation on the subject of stress you could easily end up living in lack and dread the coming of a new day.

Many people see stress as the cause of their procrastination, frustration, and failure. And so they try to "treat" stress the same way that much of modern medicine treats the symptoms of a disease - rather than treating its cause.

Now, to clarify, stress is NOT a disease. But it is a symptom. And if you try to "treat" it instead of the underlying cause, you're going to end up disappointed and discouraged. And failure is then misunderstood as one of its consequences, as well as one of its causes.

Both stem from the same root, they're outcomes of misunderstandings - inaccurate beliefs about how things work. Mistaken yet sincere beliefs about natural law cause many problems, including stress and failure. Resolving these problems requires the change in level identified by Albert Einstein, Nobel prize-winning Physicist and all-round genius, who famously said:

You cannot solve a problem at the same level
that created the problem in the first place!

The change in level needed here is therefore to eliminate the sincere yet inaccurate beliefs which cause your stress rather than try to "treat" it directly. That's the breakthrough found in these pages. This free online seminar explains what you need to do as well as how...

The Origin of our Approach

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Is this Really a Breakthrough?

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But is this really a breakthrough? Yes! It is, but how can you tell? Did you glance at this breakthrough and your mind disagree that this is the highly effective solution you need?

If so, self-sabotage has reared its ugly head and hijacked your mind to sabotage your progress. This very common problem is addressed in several places on the first page of this seminar, as well as Implementation/ Your Essential First Step. The concept of self-sabotage is introduced on the self-sabotage page.

Negativity is one of the more common forms of self-sabotage that you can experience. However, there's just one guarantee:

"If you say no to change, then nothing much will change!"

Your stress will continue unless you are willing to overcome your self-sabotage. You need to explore all such thoughts of disagreement. Then you'll realize that all you know right now is you do not yet know. But something must change, and this could be the change you need.

But you'll only know by exploring it carefully. Unless you get authentic experience by seeing how well it works, you won't know. How could you know?

Even if someone else were to assure you that it is indeed a breakthrough because they have explored it properly, that doesn't necessarily make it true for you. Their context, their experiences so far in life, their perspective is not the same as yours.

Yet you're here, you're visiting this site to reduce your stress. And reducing stress involves change - which must come from you. If you expect someone else to change to reduce your stress, you give your power away. And becoming less powerful increases stress!

So take total responsibility for your own stress. This immediately reduces your stress because you're then motivated to do something about it! Right now, that's simply to invest the time to study this free seminar.

If you were totally happy with reality as it is right now, with what is, then you would be totally happy. How much stress would you then have? None. So a powerful way of looking at stress is that it's a measure of the gap between reality, the truth, and what you think should be happening, your context. (You need to reflect on this deeply...)

The Crucial Distinction between General and Specific

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There's an enormous yet little understood difference between the General and the Specific.

The General has no specific situation in mind so applies to any circumstance. The Specific identifies a particular situation, a specific circumstance. And whilst reducing stress in specific circumstances needs the Specific Steps, there's a big change in context for any situation in general.

The General Steps provide a coherent, highly effective strategy to reduce stress in any circumstance, without knowing the specifics of a situation in advance. No therapist needed! The Specific Steps experientially reduce stress in a specific situation. Here you will need a particular stressful situation to work with in mind.

Just telling someone to change the way they think - either in general or specifically - is neither effective nor likely to last. Many if not most parents eventually come to recognize this.

Our Target Audience

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This technology is only for well and mentally healthy people. If you are not well, are ill in any way, or have any psychological or mental health issues, please go to a medical professional! This is not therapy.

This online seminar is for healthy professionals who are actively searching to reduce their stress. Some of them may either have already tried some sort of psychoanalysis or psychotherapy, or have some other reluctance to the whole therapy profession.

Since you're here, if you've already tried therapy of any form then you cannot have found it completely adequate. Perhaps, like many others, you have looked at the unsatisfactory lives of most psychologists, analysts, and therapists and agree with the general consensus that their lives are no less screwed up than the rest of us...
Maybe you reject the ongoing need for expensive personal sessions which can last for years. You just know that with today's technology, there has to be a better way.

What do we Offer that's Unique?

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Another good question. Let's answer this in a slight different form: What makes this breakthrough so much more effective, how does it reduce stress so well?

This breakthrough is designed to reduce stress in general, as well as in any particular circumstance. It is not therapy and you don't hire a therapist. This free online seminar enables you to work in your own time at your own pace.

There are two aspects to this breakthrough:
  • the General Steps to reduce stress, and
  • the Specific Steps
The General Steps are the essence of the breakthrough, they are unique and copyright. Changes to your context, to your thoughts and thought patterns form the basis of success. So ReduceStressNow has created a systematic methodology designed to help a client experientially internalize the necessary changes to his context, to her perspective.
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The Specific Steps - which apply the General Steps to a particular situation - enable you to reduce stress caused by a specific issue. These owe much to the approach of Byron Katie, which seems to owe much to Ken Keyes' teachings, which seems to owe much to ancient Buddhist teachings. We have, of course, written permission to use her brilliant approach.

"Yes, okay," I hear you say, "but why should I spend my valuable time here? What makes this free online seminar unique?"

Let's suppose you're in our target audience - a stressed-out professional who has tried other sites that promised to reduce your stress. You've come here and are now wondering: Can we really deliver?

Only you can reduce your stress. And yes, we can and will show you how. But you have come to us. Obviously what you have tried before has not been that effective. Nor has any other website that you've visited already, or you wouldn't still be looking...

Compare our Breakthrough

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Many practitioners in various disciplines, including psychologists, psychoanalysts, psychotherapists, cognitive therapists, etc. seem to think they have the complete and only answer to reducing stress. Yet how can they all be right?

It's not that these disciplines are not effective in the short-term, but do they have all the answers? The tremendous growth in alternative fields such as coaching - even by their own practitioners - shows how often the short-falls are recognized.

To see how and why this breakthrough is so different, explore what makes ReduceStressNow unique here. Click on each Expander line to explore the question, our approach is after the Caduceus (the symbol of Hermes, the Greek messenger who brings the answer of the Gods).

Now there's Scientific Proof!

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The New Scientist, on 22 June 2011, reported on a series of scientific experiments which provide a fascinating perspective on the ultimate nature of reality and its total dependence on context.

"In 1967, Simon Kochen and Ernst Specker proved mathematically that... the values that you obtain when you measure its properties depend on the context...
there is no reality independent of the choice of measurement."

"Now... a beautiful experiment... [has proved] there is no sense in assuming that what we do not measure about a system has [any independent] reality."

These elegant experiments by Anton Zeilinger and Radek Lapkiewicz have given even more support for the Copenhagen Interpretation proposed by Neils Bohr, a giant of quantum physics. Click this link to see the New Scientist report.

Science has now finally proved there is no independent reality - everything does indeed depend on your context!
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Psychology's Attempt to Monopolize all Personal Development

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In 2007, the Professional Board of Psychology attempted to extend the South African Health Professions Act, which defines the scope of the profession of psychology, to cover all forms of development of the human mind and its care. This would have effectively criminalized all work aimed at personal healing, growth, and transformation which is not performed by registered psychologists.

The gazetted Regulations changes prohibited:

"the use of any psychological methods or practice aimed at aiding persons or groups of persons in the adjustment of personality, emotional or behavioral problems or at the promotion of positive personality change, growth and development."

and even prohibited "advising any person on his or her physical state and administering, selling or prescribing for such person any medicine or treatment."
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The proposed wording would have prohibited personnel evaluation, alternative medicine, counseling, coaching, personal development instruction, and religious counseling from practicing legally in South Africa. This draconian attempt to ban all alternative approaches, with its explicit attack on freedom of expression, upset everyone, including the religious fraternity!

The narrow-minded arrogance of this approach was staggering. It showed that when your manifest failures become widely perceived, banning the competition can be seen as an attractive strategy.

This attempt by the Psychology industry in South Africa ostensibly came from an attempt to protect the general population, of course. A mistaken contention that since psychology is the only effective approach, all others should be made illegal!

Yet even the most casual inquiry shows this opinion to be totally untrue. Different people are very different, so different approaches are needed. For those who recognized the underlying rationale behind the proposals, this attempt simply demonstrated the mental poverty of the Professional Board of Psychology in South Africa. One size does not fit all!

Check out this true and very amusing story of why psychologists have lost so much of the general population's confidence...
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Robert Kiyosaki

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Rich Dad, Poor Dad has been on the best-seller lists for years. It's all about becoming wealthy! As a result, Robert Kiyosaki is now a world famous wealth-creating author and teacher. Yet his fifth book, Retire Young, Retire Rich, says virtually nothing about what to do to become wealthy. It's instead all about context, your perspective, where you come from when you do what you do.

"It is not so much what you do that makes you rich or poor.
It is more the context surrounding what you do
that makes you rich or poor...

"That is why when people ask me what I do... I reply; 'Please don't ask me what I do. Ask me what I think about what I do.'...
the difference... is the context surrounding the actions or content."

These quotations come from page 326 in Retire Young, Retire Rich.
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Dr. David Hawkins

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The work of brilliant psychiatrist Dr. David Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. is seminal. Honored as a 50-year Distinguished Life Fellow by the American Psychiatric Association, Dr. Hawkins is a formally recognized "Teacher of the Way to Enlightenment" in the Far East.

You may know him as the co-author, with Nobel Laureate Linus Pauling, of the revolutionary work Orthomolecular Psychiatry, which initiated a new field within psychiatry.

Dr. Hawkins' emphasis on the importance of context is immense. A brief exploration of his books shows hundreds of references to the word context.

"Political/sociological hypotheses are usually proven over time to be incorrect and based on false assumptions... such formulas almost always ignore context altogether."

"Much confusion in society as well as philosophy stems from not realizing the importance of defining the context."

"To know that the Self is context and that, in contrast, the self is content is already a huge leap forward.
The naive seeker merely keeps reshuffling the content."

"It is context which defines both limits and possibilities."

"a whole new mode of knowingness that recontextualised the very core of experiencing. The shift was basically from content to context..."

"A statement is only true within a specific context, and the same exact statement can become blatantly false in a different context (situational ethics, impaired responsibility, mitigating circumstances, different time period or setting, different cultures or historical period, etc.)"

These quotations come from pages 201 and 255 in The Eye of the I; pages 120 and 126 in I - Reality and Subjectivity; and pages xiii and 44 in Truth vs Falsehood.
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Bryon Katie

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Through her experiences, Katie Byron realized that to question your mind is to reduce your suffering. She now teaches an inspiringly simple yet effective methodology - the four questions and the turnaround - called The Work.

"As long as you think that the cause of your problems is 'out there' - as long as you think that anyone or anything else is responsible for your suffering... you are forever in the role of the victim."

"Every time you're in (someone else's) business... you have left yourself, and the effect of that is loneliness and terror. Until you question what you believe, you remain the innocent cause of your own suffering."

"For people who are tired of the pain, nothing could be worse than trying to control what can't be controlled. If you want real control, drop the illusion of control; let life have you. It does anyway."

These quotations come from page 76 in Loving What Is and pages 35 and 49 in Question your thinking, Change the world.

Our General Steps to reduce stress are entirely our own work. The Specific Steps - which apply the General Steps to a particular situation - owe much to the inspiration of Byron Katie, which seems to owe much to the inspiration of Ken Keyes, which seems to owe much to the inspiration of ancient Buddhist teachings.

I've attended several of Katie's awesome
classes and see her as enlightened. Her husband, with whom she's written several books, is the well known Buddhist scholar and author, Stephen Mitchell. We have her written agreement to use her approach, and I appreciate that permission. Thanks a million, kt.

The approach, but not her copyrighted originals, has been adapted for use here. They are, of course, all © Byron Katie, Inc. All rights reserved.
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Fr Anthony De Mello

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Although I meditate regularly, the General Steps owe nothing to any form of psychology or religion. I am spiritual although not religious. My personal view is that religion has had too much authority over the centuries, which it has used to promote the value of becoming a believer. This is not to discount the enormous value that some enlightened and highly religious souls, eg Fr Anthony de Mello, SJ, have to contribute. See, for example, Awareness, page 17:

"Some of us get woken up by the harsh realities of life...
It never occurs to (others) that there may be a better way.
If you haven't suffered enough, then there is another way; to listen.

(You) don't have to agree with what I'm saying... Because agreement and disagreement... don't have anything to do with truth...
Truth is sighted suddenly, as a result of a certain attitude.

So you could be disagreeing with me and still sight the truth.
But there has to be an attitude of openness, of willingness to discover something new."

Along with many others, de Mello also knows that your attitude, your context is crucial to discovering the truth.

A discussion of Anthony de Mello found online contains the following quotation (citation unknown):

"To doubt is infinitely more important than adoration... to question is so much more important than to believe."

We also don't believe in believing, we instead believe in real knowing, which comes with experience. This is because the mind can be hi-jacked by the self-sabotage mechanism, and then the thoughts it gives you can be unreliable and manipulative. Rather adopt the correct attitude, which helps avoid such problems.

Those who simply believe what they are taught often don't bother to gain any experience. So they get further and further from wisdom - authentic hands-on knowledge in the real world. And their believers become less and less effective in turn. This highly problematic approach - the blind leading the blind - is a major contributor to the problems we experience today.
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Neale Donald Walsch

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This spiritual teacher has some very interesting things to say about life. Some of the perspectives he offers can be quite radical, yet they fall into an integrated whole which clarifies how to make amazing progress.

"Your perspective creates your thoughts... if you can remember this... your whole life will change...

"Assume a different perspective, and you will have a different thought about everything. In this way you will have learned to control your thought, and, in the creation of your experience,
controlled thought is everything."

Psychiatrist Dr. David Hawkins strongly emphasizes the importance of perspective - context - throughout his books. This same focus on context is exactly what Robert Kiyosaki emphasizes in Retire Young, Retire Rich.

It's so very reassuring to see there's now scientific proof that context is crucial. Science agrees with these teachers from radically different environments: - one psychiatry (medical), another very material, and the third spiritual. They all have exactly the same message!
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Food for Thought

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"The central problem of illusion is not that it is unreal or fallacious, but that it seems real."

Socrates (469 BC–399 BC), classical Greek philosopher

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